Plans for Today
1- Clear out the Nursery half of the bedroom.
2- Empty/Clean the car.
3 - Pick baby stuff up from the future in-laws.
4- Bring baby stuff in and being putting the Nursery together.
5- Find out where I can get the best bargain for the material for the baby blanket, crib bumper, and curtains that I’m making for our little Jumping Bean.
1 - Shower/Bath (depends which in the mood for).
2 - Pamper myself by shaving, exfoliating, and maybe giving myself a mini-pedicure and mini-manicure (perhaps painting my nails).
3 - Nap.
4 - Claim lots of cuddles and a massage from M tonight while having Movie Night ;)
1 - Wash and put the dishes away.
2 - Swipe and Mop
3 - Do a few loads of Laundry.
*** We shall see how much I actually get done =X. ***
A few people have asked about our boundaries lately, and so here they are. These are our personal boundaries at the moment.
1- We are fluid bonded and condoms are always to be used with others.
2- Our sex toys are ours and not to be used with others. If we want a toy to use with others we will buy it specifically for usage with other partners, and employ the usage of protection (such as a condom) on the toy(s) as well as proper washing afterwards.
3- Our bed is our bed and there will be no playing in it with other partners unless we are both involved. There are plenty of other places for solo playing with others.
4- Neither one of us has sex with a new partner without discussing it with each other and both being comfortable with the new sexual partner beforehand.
This last one is not a hard boundary, but since it has been a huge success in the past for us we believe it is very useful for us.
5 - This is speaking about the new person who we plan on going on a date with each other beforehand and introducing them early. For us we have learned that doing this personally eases our fears and insecurities by a noticeable margin.As you can probably tell from our boundaries, the vast majority of them involve safer sex practices, with the rest involving communication between each other and keeping us in the loop of knowing what is going on.
I hate that I can’t grow any body hair… I haven’t shaved my legs in like 3 months and the hair is so blonde that you can’t see any of it. It’s like it’s nonexistent.
I blame it on me being Canadian…
I’ll trade you some of my dark thick hairy legs, and body hair, if you give my body some of your lack of hair ;)
I got my dad’s hair, and undeniably it’s not just on my head.
Sound like a fair trade?
A while ago I got a message from a guy who was …. shall we say straight forward and who got to the point, though way too graphic for my taste. He was married, and basically just looking for a sex play submissive partner - which he openly stated on his profile - which isn’t bad in itself, but it absolutely did not sit well with me.
I got the total creeps from him because although he stated that he was married and looking for sex, he also publically stated that he was on this site without his wife knowing and that he was looking for someone to be his women on the side - he was solely there looking to cheat on his wife. Not cool. Not one bit.
As if him looking to cheat did not give me the creeps enough, he was much older than the maximum age that I gave. I’m in my young twenties, and my preferred age range is set 21 to 35 years. If someone messages me that is a few years younger than that to five years older I don’t appreciate it at all because to me it means that they bluntly disregarded what I stated in my profile, but I am not going to throw a fit - normally I tend to ignore their messages unless I see something I like in their profiles and multiple choice questions.
This guy was WAY out of that acceptable range as he was 62 years old. Why would ANYONE think even for one second that it is okay and acceptable to message someone who very clearly is not interested in people who are twenty years younger than this guy? Seriously?
First you approuch me wanting to cheat on your wife, ignoring that I am not currently seeking to date anyone for the moment, than you are more than 25 years out of my range of age.
As if that where not enough, a few months later he messages me again, this time with this gem:
I think that guys that write after not getting a response to their message are lame. But, I thought maybe my message got lost in the tsunami of messages you must be receiving from the hordes of other suitors. So I thought I’d check in again.
I really hope I hear back.
Sincerely - Steve
SERIOUSLY? Are you kidding me? Why are you messaging me again when you yourself said you believe that people that write after getting no responses are lame?
Needless to say I blocked the creep.
The point of this post of mine is that OkCupid can be great fun (I’ve met amazing people off of there over the time that I’ve been a member), and can give some very funny stories to share, but my god some people are just bluntly ignoring everything that you said in your profile, ignoring why you are there, and are downright sexual harassers.
To everyone of you that employ basic human manners on that site, and other dating sites, I thank you from the bottom of my heart.
I wonder how often this particular emotion is confused with jealousy.
This makes a lot of sense to me.
My wife has felt this way on many occasions. Its an indication to me that I’m not doing enough with her and that she needs special time with me as well. Time fills up quickly and when I’m wrapped up in a new relationship I tend to want to do all the exciting things with this new person.
I have to remember to purposefully plan exciting things to do with my wife too or she feels left out. I’m also really careful not to do something with my secondary partners that I know my wife would want to do. Agreements and communication can help. I find this comes up with new movies and restaurants a lot so I clear those types of things with my wife first and err on the side of caution if we haven’t had a chance to discuss things first.
I have felt like this too and it’s not fun. When I feel this way I try to remind myself that I love my wife and I’m glad that she had whatever experience she had that triggered this in me. I remind myself that we can have experiences too and maybe I should be more proactive at planning them.
This is the hardest thing for me to work out within myself. I will feel left out/not included in the fun, this causes me to feel left behind, which is the cause of most of my feeling sad.
I especially felt this way during M’s last business trip this past weekend. I couldn’t join and instead had to stay home while he was out of town and I was stuck alone with nothing to do in the dead end area we live in.